This blog post originally appeared in February 2016 and was revised in February 2026.
With Valentine’s Day upon us, cupid may have left a few arrows in the workplace. People spend a lot of time with coworkers, so it is not unheard of for workplace relationships to evolve into romantic relationships. A 2023 study from the Society for Human Resource Management found that 24 percent of U.S. workers have dated a coworker. While the idea of having an office sweetheart may boost some employees’ morale, romantic relationships in the workplace can create employee dissension and legal liability for employers.
Relationships Between Supervisors and Subordinates
While any relationship between employees may cause problems in the workplace, the level of exposure to employers increases when a romantic relationship develops between a supervisor and subordinate. Indeed, relationships that begin as consensual between supervisors and subordinates may later form the basis of a harassment lawsuit. When a supervisor and subordinate break up, they are still required to work together professionally despite their past dating history.
Such relationships can have actual and resonating effects on the workplace because of the power inequalities in the positions and the insecurity the relationship may create for other employees, especially those who report to the supervisor. In one case, the Eleventh Circuit found that a public employer’s interest in discouraging intimate association between supervisors and subordinates was so critical to the effective functioning of the employer that it outweighed the employee’s interest in the relationship. (Starling v. County Board of Commissioners.);;;
More importantly, an employer is strictly liable for supervisory employees’ sexual harassment regardless of whether the employer knew of conduct. (Kelly-Zurian v. Wohl Shoe Co.; Gov. Code, § 12940, subd. (j)(1).) It is not easy for an employer to know when a consensual dating relationship between two employees is no longer consensual. For this reason, it is best to develop policies requiring employees to immediately disclose romantic workplace relationships to a higher-level supervisor or human resources.
Sexual Harassment
If employers do not take swift, proper action upon discovering romantic workplace relationships, they may be faced with claims of sexual harassment. Under the Fair Employment and Housing Act (“FEHA”), it is unlawful for an employer to subject an employee to different terms and conditions of employment because of the employee’s sex. There are two types of sexual harassment. The first type is “Quid pro quo” harassment, which occurs when submission to sexual conduct is explicitly or implicitly made a condition of a job, a job benefit, or the absence of a job detriment. The second type is a “hostile work environment,” in which an individual must show: (1) he or she was subjected to conduct of a harassing nature because of his or her sex; (2) the conduct was both subjectively and objectively unwelcome or offensive; and (3) the conduct was sufficiently severe or pervasive to unreasonably interfere with work performance or to create an intimidating, hostile, or offensive working environment. For the “severe or pervasive” standard, one single incident of harassing conduct is sufficient to create a triable issue regarding the existence of a hostile work environment.
In one example of a workplace relationship forming the basis of a sexual harassment claim, Allan Samson hired Joyce Chan as his legal secretary and the two dated for two years. Chan alleged that she continued the relationship out of fear of losing her job but eventually ended the relationship when she realized that Samson’s behavior constituted sexual harassment. She alleged that soon thereafter, Samson retaliated against her by changing the terms of her employment. Chan informed Samson that she was planning on a sexual harassment and retaliation complaint. Samson ended up settling with Chan. (Samson v. Allstate Insurance Company.)
Sexual Favoritism
Employers must also be aware of any sexual favoritism that may result from romantic relationships. A 2024 Forbes survey found that 50% of employees reported that workplace relationship promotes favoritism. Sexual favoritism is favoritism shown by supervisors to employees who are the supervisors’ sexual partners. (Miller v. Department of Corrections.)Third party employees who are not involved in the relationship may be motivated to bring claims of sexual favoritism if they see a coworker receive job benefits as a result of being intimately involved with a supervisor. In the Miller case, the court found there was evidence that the advancement of female employees at a prison was based upon sexual favors, which blocked merit-based advancement. The California Supreme Court recognized that an employee may establish a sexual harassment claim under the FEHA by demonstrating widespread sexual favoritism that is severe or pervasive enough to alter an employee’s working conditions and create a hostile work environment. (Miller)
Anti-Nepotism and Anti-Fraternization Policies
There are several steps employers can take to set standards of conduct for workplace romances. Federal and state laws, as well as the California Constitution, generally prohibit employers from making employment decisions based on marital status. Anti-nepotism and anti-fraternization policies, however, are permissible. If a personal relationship in the workplace would affect supervision, efficiency, security, or morale, an employer would have a strong argument for implementing and enforcing anti-nepotism and anti-fraternization policies.
These policies should require employees to immediately disclose romantic workplace relationships. By requiring disclosure, employers can red flag romantic relationships between supervisors and subordinates or relationships that create a conflict of interest. The California Court of Appeal has upheld policies that require a supervisor to bring a consensual intimate relationship with an employee to management’s attention for appropriate action. (See Barbee v. Household Automotive Finance Corp.)
Once an employer learns of a romantic workplace relationship, the employer should immediately explore all options and take non-discriminatory corrective action. Pursuant to a policy, employers can reassign or transfer one or both of the employees. Employers can seek the affected employees’ preferences for reassignment or use objective standards such as personnel rules, memorandum of understanding (“MOU”) policies, or seniority to determine which employee to reassign and where to reassign the employee(s). If an employee violates the anti-nepotism or anti-fraternization policy despite notice of the policy, an employer may choose to take disciplinary action against the employee. This may be the right decision if an employee has a pattern or practice of engaging in office relationships that disrupt the workplace.
Employers should uniformly enforce anti-nepotism and anti-fraternization policies. They should not ignore some relationships while taking action against other relationships. Employers should regularly circulate the relevant policies. Employers with represented employees should also remember that they should provide notice and follow the meet and confer process.
Employee Privacy
An employer ultimately may not be able to prevent two employees from engaging in a personal relationship outside of the workplace. Employees can in some circumstances make arguments that they have an expectation of privacy and a right to intimate association, which involves an employee’s choice to enter into and maintain certain intimate human relationships. (Starling.) Nonetheless, an employer can diminish the expectation to the right to privacy by giving employee’s notice of any anti-nepotism and anti-fraternization policies. (Barbee.)
Mitigating Risk of Issues with Dating in the Workplace
While employers may not be able to completely prevent office romances, an employer can establish policies that require disclosure of romantic relationships and give the employer the discretion to take appropriate corrective action. Employers are also required to implement and enforce harassment and retaliation policies that are up to date with current law. Furthermore, harassment prevention training is a key requirement. These trainings provide an opportunity to inform employees about the employer’s policies on harassment, retaliation, anti-nepotism, and anti-fraternization. By taking these steps, employers reduce the odds that they will be hit by a lawsuit if an office romance goes awry.
If your agency needs help updating harassment and retaliation policies or providing the required harassment prevention training, trusted legal counsel can provide assistance.




